The other day, I had a first with my partner Flo: I put my tongue in another man's mouth while he stood by only to observe. By having a relationship with someone else and then just disappearing off it made things so much more complex for me, him and particularly the DC. It's not that big of a deal anyway and you aren't going to do it again. And, of course, cheating always tends to increase during a recession. Past is something you cannot change. Just my opinion. Have a happy day every one. As one young man said " time heals" and he's so right. I know he would forgive me but I don't want to deal with issue with him. We were chatting when we realised the other woman was snoring. [3] you couldn't extend to him the same courtesy he'd already extended to *you* (i.e. That's a long time for kissing. You werent totally bombed out of your mind, so you realized what you did and you felt guilty about it. reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2005): Already have an account? female So you went and MARRIED someone who was your best FRIEND, not your already Bam!, Pow!, "oh my god there is a god!" Hang on because I'm sure there will be other people who believe differently from me. To submit your vote please sign in or sign up, it is free and takes a few seconds. Houston, this team needs to identify then agree over what's causing it. One day, he came over with a bottle of whisky and he had already been drinking. Boyfriend kissed another girl while drunk? There's a difference between sex and kissing. For me i felt guilty for enjoying it so much. So she told him for starters to kiss her well you know where. Maybe she was experimenting or it was something shed thought about and wanted to see what it felt like. They all agree that kissing is intimate with one even saying that to them, its more intimate than sex. Right,undoubtedly you didn't say what Tillybops wanted to hear. I have to admire the guy for realizing that he was putting a marriage at risk, and backed away. Can Humans Detect Text by AI Chatbot GPT? Cell phones, texting, emails etc. Whoops. And then continued behaving like friends as if the mere certificate would do the work and promotion parts for you (or, alternatively, continued accepting the fact that ONE friend couldn't quite dare up his friendship ante to where you felt sated in the affection and attention worthy of marriage department) Life's a bleedin' mystery, ain't it? He went on to tell me that he kissed another woman and he had to tell me, he couldn't keep it a secret from me. Guy Winch, Ph.D., is a licensed psychologist and author of Emotional First Aid: Healing Rejection, Guilt, Failure, and Other Everyday Hurts. Genie, I think being honest is always the best because. What if your husband ever found out? I sent the guy packing with a friendly piss-take (whilst deliberately flashing my ring), and then told hubbie the minute I got home. I feel like my husband deserves so much better, but can't tell him because the guy isn't some stranger, he's a person I see 5 days a week, and I know if tables were turned and I was in my husbands position I would wonder what interactions were happening between the two in work everyday. See "The 5 Ingredients of an Effective Apology"; you probably miss at least two of them when you apologize. Now then,you and hubby should do some summer travel. Even if it is innocent kiss, I am done. We are together 12 years altogether and although I had boyfriends before him, it was never serious, and he is the only man I've ever slept with. Try-it-on, cheating sleazebag makes pass at loyally-married woman; NOT mentioning it could make you come across guilty. i cried for days on and my bf couldnt figure out was . Will the guilt ever go away? So she left after a couple of replies. Can you tthan please explain this? You don't have control over these things. On which note - "Marriage is about trust not tryst": I like that saying. I thanked him for telling me this and we didnt speak to one another for years. Updated January 27, 2023 by ReGain Editorial Team. He is a good person and a good husband and I love him very much. I'm dating this guy and have been for about 2 months. I said to my husband, I have something to tell you, but I dont know how to say it.. Its more like an excuse for cheating. Despite their passion during the kiss though, thestraight guys (quite predictably)all saythey still identified asstraight. SO if you shouldn't, then A) you should be able to tell him, and B) if he's the type to hit the roof over a kiss, he's a wee bit paranoid for his own good, and it wouldn't be *your* fault. The last person you should be talking to about your feelings of guilt is your partner. But I'll let you off because that was a MacResponse whereas 'a lot to take in', i.e. Not work you put off until 'tomorrow' - TODAY. Nooooo, surely not. But, again, it's never what you do, it's the way that you do it, meaning I was careful to be sensitive in the telling. I have posted a vent and been waiting for your scathing reply. - GET THE FUCK OUT. Are you sure you didnt have sex with him/her? My gf went to a house party and got really drunk, and apparently kissed a g My girlfriend got drunk and kissed another guy, 2 months later she got drunk and kissed a girl, HELP. This one by far has lasted the longest. He encouraged me to to ring for a taxi from his house which I did. Later, I spoke to my fianc and he told me he loved me and was sorry. 4 days ago. I was so drunk, I barely remember the kiss, but I know it happened. I wouldn't be able to sleep at night. Your punishment is living with this. a wiz veteran at Relationship Talk. So if for some reason he'd got funny about it, I'd have just dealt with it. End of story. Once was after we'd had a bit of a heavy talk earlier, and the other two were after we dropped one of the little ones off at the grandparents and he started talking about if it gets easier to leave a child (ie when you have weekend contact and you have to drop the child back off at the end of it.). What should I do. Sorry Soulmate I know I need to stop,but it's hard to. 2. Im also pleased that you agreed with my argument as to when to fess up and when to keep your mouth shut. I made it explicit to my girlfriend that I can only function in an extremely honest and all-cards-on-the-table relationship. Not just what I did but the fact I work with this person and have to continue to work with him. HIKARI, you can't take up an obsolete thread as your own, no matter any similarities, so if you want feedback and advice it's best to start a new one (and copy and paste that post into it as your opening post), okay? By clicking 'Submit' or otherwise submitting this form you agree to the, By entering this site you declare I think you already knew what you wanted to do, your husband was not home, saw an opportunity, and wanted to use being drunk as a cover story. Whoever did it, doesnt matter. I myself will have to comment tomorrow, now, although maybe SK and anyone else would like to join in in the meantime? 2. I know true remorse when I see it. Yesterday night we went out to drink. Thank you soulmate,but I'm getting over those issues. I can't stop playing it over again and again. For the last two years have read a lot about infidelity. Youre just using the fact that you were drunk as an excuse. I have to admit that by kissing this guy whom I liked, I did cheat on my husband. The next time you saw your significant other you might have blurted out, I have a confession to make. Ugh, basically. You wanna tell your husband? "and though he immediately pulled away". It's South of France for us this year, holiday-wise, and then in about a year-and-a-half's time we're off permanently to Espana (por favor). She may say that. For me, to feel guilty about having sex with someone, while in a relationship with someone else, I must have remorse. After all, if you're still berating yourself for what you did, it won't matter whether or not your partner has totally forgiven you. For the last few years we have been trying for a baby and are currently going through tests to try find out why it's not happening. By accepting all cookies, you agree to our use of cookies to deliver and maintain our services and site, improve the quality of Reddit, personalize Reddit content and advertising, and measure the effectiveness of advertising. Though somehow I think there might have been trouble in the marriage. Scopes: okay, although the whole point of forums is [1] that they're anonymous and [2] people's problems aren't ever remotely unique enough for the poster not to potentially be literally from anywhere in the world thus unidentifiable. Having eyes for someone else while you're married is seen to be wildly inappropriate. But please seperate the issues. Sorry, you two, I'm not ignoring you, just super-super-busy at the mo. It was such a weird experience. You love your spouse and you want to do your best to be a good partner. (PS: These 'recent issues' of yours. Well, that's all fairly laudible but ;-). You're not attracted to him? When my husband came home, he could tell right away that I had been drinking. And he grabbed my waist!. I felt a mixture of excitement and flattery and nerves. Thus it's what I *DID DO* - back in September when at an Indian restaurant with friends (I mentioned it on this forum as apropos to someone's thread) and some bloke tried to come onto me. So what do you think? I put a blanket over her and sat back down next to the man. Dont tell me that you and ______ (the girl who was staying at our house for the weekend) are lesbians? I've never gone to a counsellor before, but I'm going to see one next week to talk through it. this guy only tried to kiss you so as far as you cheating on him there is no and your appropriate response was toback away and leave the guy standing. When we got there the drinks flowed again , and more laughter and story telling. I dont know which country u belong from but where i live I don't think men here like us to talk to strangers , men are our protectors and the bread earners, men on the whole are possessive of their females all around the world specially in case like yours if you have been too much loyal to each other,however if we assumed both of u to be flirt or too outgoing-means in case of slping wid ppl etc then u could share an event like a normal secretbut remember this is not merely a secret its equal to CONFESSING A CRIME/yes disloyality is a crime another man can not touch u after u r marryd to sombdy-if i take myself into account i can never allow any guy to touch me its only my hubbys right to see and love me even he says my loyalty is his most precious asset:) so if u do confess then he forgives or not for ur crime is his decision- I would recommend you should avoid telling him n you should change your job or timings as soon as possible because he that boy may try to exploit the situation tell your hubby though it has little chance but still you should be careful. I reassured my husband that this would never happen again and that I was sorry. My thread is called Hurt and Confused. (That'll do me nicely! I feel like I am hypnotized by the guy. It ended up leading to a follow-up video of straight girls kissing other girls for the first time. But I can't leave my job. But I don't see the need to borrow trouble by telling your boyfriend if you have learned your lesson and know you will never do something like that again. Don't have an account? SOULMATE (moderator), is this seriously your job? Please help. You kissed a guy - Possibly unforgivable. I remember saying 'no, no, this is bad' in the middle of it, and he said 'I know but I really like you and I have done for ages', and he kissed me again, but this time only for a second because I said ' I really can't do this, I have no excuse, I'm married and he's lovely, it's not like I'm unhappy, he's a good person' then he kinda just stroked my arm and said 'I know, your right, it's just I'm really attracted to you and couldn't not act on it, I'm sorry, you're right'. What does it mean for my marriage? = I'VE ONLY GOT HIS WORD FOR IT. I was correct, she struggles with trust. It's where the lips have been and where they're going. You have no right to unburden your conscience at the expense of your partners happiness. When you're in a long-term relationship, it's normal to have a little crush on someone other than your partner. Add your answer to this question! "what the hell where we at?" I merely stated from the above that lips are a part of foreplay. I tried to flag down a taxi but it ignored me and I even hid behind a wall at a garage while he took a pee. This. If you kissed a stranger, your significant other might just react by laughing or by telling you it's okay. I can't get into his FB directly but I accessed his hotmail and read the notification. It didn't feel real. Live with the soul crushing guilt you earned, or lose your BF. ;-D. Ahhhh you're back! She may mean it now, but maybe next week she wont, but you cannot rely on it..Is it a pattern of distrust? If I could go back in time I would because my SO is truly the best person out there. i asked him how he'd feel if i went and made out with another man in front of him. We may share information about your use of our site with trusted advertising and analytics partners. focus on you and your DH. I was drunk on Friday night and I kissed another guy. 8=) ) Yes it hurts.. That's a lot to take in. I had text my husband so he knew where I was and that was ok. In Jung's theory, the anima makes up the totality of the unconscious feminine psychological qualities that a man possesses and the animus the masculine ones possessed by a woman. Okay. (SK: no, it's just one of those places that's never appealed, holiday-wise, no doubt exacerbated by the fact I don't like long-haul flights for how they literally do my head in (think it's the aircon gas plus oxygen deprivation (don't get me started)) often lasting for a whole week afterwards, which isn't exactly what I call having a nice time.) Whether it's romance, friendship, family, co-workers, or basic human interaction: we're here to help! Other way around. reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2007): A Kissed someone on vakation while drunk, cheating or not? lover. I love your stories, Foxie. I totally regret my actions and cannot bear to tell my boyfriend. He Have Lipstick Stain Or Make Up Stain On His Face It's an obvious sign that someone kissed him. No matter how much we insist that "it's all good, bro, we're like, totally homies!", we don't mean it, not really. "then the cheeky ugger only went and bloody kissed me, didn't he! I guess what really bothers me a lot is when kids get involved. Oh, I see. Simone was telling a caller how satisfy his girlfriend. However for the next time please be careful and never do such a blunder because he's a gem and you should not lose him just for your stupid or foolish acts .i mean any sophisticated or a ONE MAN WOMAN (a proud title for me :) and hopflly for u too ) wont like to stress her relatn or leave a man whom she loves or take him in a position where he might leave ? ;-) (Awlthough, dang naace trah, they-yer, at tryin-a git' me ter disclows mah gendah. You knowing you can trust your husband to do the right thing when faced with temptation is all it takes for him to remain blight-free when blight (whether or not wearing fishnets) threatens. I guess it's the nature of the topic - emotive yet one of those Grey areas. If you kissed a stranger, your significant other might just react by laughing or by telling you its okay. Truth-seekers are never popular. There's nothing wrong with feeling an attraction to another person when you're in a relationship. You're going through tests BY OTHERS to find out why you can't fall pregnant. "I'm not sure if you are trying to be helpful, or just entertaining yourself with your responses." I told him straight away what had happened. But the guilt is killing me. Please tell me I will stop feeling like this. All of sudden my guy friend stopped texting me good morning and good night Im a guy and i had sex with my guy bestfriend drunk.
Bridgeport Ave, Shelton Ct Restaurants,
Schurz High School Shooting,
Tricia A Bigelow Pictures,
Lbc Presenters Listening Figures 2019,
Jetblue Gateway Program,
Articles I
